Have you ever just not felt like trying? Like trying to be “on” all the time or not wanting to go out and be around people? To be the person they expect you to be? That feeling might come after a hard day or a tough week for most people. But for those of you walking the difficult path of grief—whether it’s a fresh journey or a long-worn road—I’m sure this hits close to home.

Today, I want to talk about what it’s like to keep “trying” while grieving and how it can feel like you’re constantly falling short. I also want to share a few simple things you can do when you feel like you just can’t anymore. The title gives away one of the most effective strategies, and I’ll explain why it’s so crucial for us to start thinking about it right now.