Pushing through Milestones

As we know, everyone’s experience with grief – and thus their experience with milestones regarding that grief – can be very different, to say the least. Some revel in the comfort of memories and mementos of their special someone. Others find solace in holding their feelings close to their heart, allowing very little into their moments of grief. No matter the grief journey you may be on, one thing is consistent, the unknowing anxiety of making it through the many, various milestones dictated by the calendar.

Recently we found ourselves approaching a daunting milestone – the one-year anniversary of my wife’s passing. Thankfully, we had decided months earlier what exactly might work for our family. As you can imagine, a family of five with kids ranging in age from 13 to 22, we’ve had our share of memories throughout the years, and now, more than ever, we hold those memories as tight as a warm blanket on a cold winters day. This milestone was to be dealt with in a unique, but common (to us) approach. We decided to celebrate the memories we hold deep within our hearts while creating new memories that, no doubt, my wife would wish for us to make.

Although our approach to this milestone may not work for everyone in every situation, my goal here is to provide an insight into a different way to handle some or many of your milestones while you navigate your grief now and in the days to come. Because this milestone meant the world to us, I thought I’d share with you a video, in my own, awkward, but heartfelt words, what we chose to do and why it meant the world to us all.