The holiday season is a tough time of year for many people, but it can be particularly difficult for those who are grieving.

Grief is an individual experience that’s different for everyone. Grieving the death of someone you love is never easy, especially during the holidays when memories are everywhere and traditions may not be observed in the same way anymore. Grief doesn’t have to get in the way of enjoying your family or friends this holiday season – here are some tips to help you cope with grief this Christmas!

“Try to do share the things you used to do with your loved one with others or add new traditions that will keep them close to your heart.”

Consider these five things when approaching the holiday season:

  1. Don’t be afraid of your grief – it’s okay if you’re sad or miss your loved one. Grieving is natural, but that doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy yourself this holiday season! You are in no way dishonoring them or forgetting them if you find some joy while being with family or friends during the holidays.
  2. Remember what made your holidays special in previous years by making a list of fond memories or traditions you shared with your loved one. Instead of seeing those memories as a source for sorrow, try to view them as a way to relive those memories you hold dear and to begin new ones in the same fashion.
  3. Plan some activities that you can enjoy with your loved one in mind. Whether it’s baking cookies, going for a walk, or visiting a favorite spot, doing something you enjoyed together will help keep them close to your heart.
  4. Be open to new traditions – the holidays are about celebrating family and friends, so why not start some new traditions. Whether it’s the purchase of special ornaments by every family member or a gathering of family to bake favorite holiday cookies while you all reminisce, these new traditions can provide much-needed strength this holiday season.
  5. Remember that you’re not alone – grief is a difficult experience, but know that there are people who care and want to help. Let family members or friends know what would be helpful for you so they can support your healing process this holiday season. For myself, it helps if everyone feels free to bring up memories of my late wife… in a way, it keeps her alive deep in our hearts.

Grieving doesn’t have to ruin the holidays! However, take into consideration these three things when approaching the holidays:

  • Grief comes in all shapes and sizes – what works for one person might not work for another.
  • Try to do share the things you used to do with your loved one with others or add new traditions that will keep them close to your heart.
  • Don’t forget, there are people who care about you and want to help, so let them know what would be helpful for you and be open and honest about your grief with them as well.

If you or someone you know is struggling with grief this holiday season, please don’t hesitate to reach out for help, express your needs or ask if you can offer to help yourself. Making time for someone who is grieving during the holidays show they are not alone in their memories nor are they alone during this difficult time of year. Grief is a journey not necessarily meant to be walked alone. The more hands you have to hold provide more smiles you will have to share, and thus more comfort along your journey.